“The acknowledgement of having suffered evil is the greatest step forward in mental health.” Stefan Molyneux
Bad things happen.
The universe is random, and sometimes that randomness causes good people to get cancer, or to cross paths with a malevolent individual that does them harm.
Denying that you have been hurt means that the wounds (psychologically and emotionally) can not heal. Instead they get infected, fester, and poison the psyche over time. The damage compounds, and can cause us to react and inflict pain on others because of our underlying and unresolved pain and trauma.
The first step is admission, be it in a 12 Step program or acknowledging we are suffering. Being strong enough to say “I have a problem (with a bottle, with the phone, with a relationship, etc.)” is the only way to start on the healing journey.
If you have been hurt, know that you are not the only one. Know that there is no shame in admitting what happened, because bad people hurt innocent people. Your being harmed does not make you a bad person.