“Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.” -Eliza Tabor
A sword after being drawn from the flames is hammered and then quenched, plunged into the cold to temper the steel. It is the cycle of fire, stress, and bathing that sets the edge of the weapon and makes it flexibly strong, deadly powerful and useful. Without the heat and abuse and cold it would be a mere ingot sitting on a bench, heavy and useless.
Choose the adversity.
Take the blows.
Expose yourself to the fire and water.
Beat the impurities out and craft an edge to yourself.
Push yourself beyond your limits to expand them, and be disappointed in yourself and others to consistently raise the standard of excellence you strive for. This is how to forge your soul into something beautifully valuable.