“You either die a hero, or you live long enough to see yourself become the villain.” -Harvey Dent
All relationships start off with NRE: New Relationship Energy. Things are exciting, the other person is shiny and can do no wrong. Those little foibles are cute quirks, and the rose-tinted glasses are fully on because our bodies are flooded with positive biochemicals that mimic being inebriated in many ways. That is why it is called “being love drunk.”
And then we start to sober up.
Those cute quirks become not so cute, then annoying.
We start to see the little things like they aren’t nice to the waitress or they leave their dishes on the table. And we notice more and more of the little things as the halo effect fades.
Do you continue down this path and eventually blow it up, or do you both reinvent yourself so there is the newness, a re-entering of the honeymoon phase over and over again? Do you choose to be the hero or villain?